One of the best ways to care for yourself is to know yourself. When you know yourself, you understand your triggers. You understand your responses to certain people and situations. You understand your behaviors and what you need. You understand why you feel a certain way when something happens or why you tend to prefer some situations or people better than others.
With your own self-awareness, you can make better decisions. You can be thoughtful and gentle with yourself during both the good and hard times. You can learn how to better connect and work with people who are different than you. You can better vocalize what you need and desire. You gain awareness about your fears and motivations to overcome those fears. You see, deeply knowing yourself is beautiful and helpful.
For me, I found the best insights about myself when I took three (FREE) personality tests:
The first one that amazed me was 16 Personalities, which is a modern framework. They share, “Our personality model incorporates the latest advances in psychometric research, combining time-tested concepts with robust and highly accurate testing techniques.”
I love 16 Personalities because it breaks down how you operate at work, at home, in relationships, as a parent, and even TV characters that have your personality traits. I had my entire family take this at Christmas one year, and everyone loved it! Since then, it’s helped us get along better and have more empathy for someone else’s needs, perspectives, and feelings.
I am a Campaigner in the 16 Personalities test. You can find your personality type here!
The second test that I love is the Enneagram test, which has a LOT of research and passionate people sharing their experiences with this test. With this model, there are nine types of people:
- The Perfectionist
- The Giver
- The Performer
- The Romantic
- The Observer
- The Loyal Skeptic
- The Epicure (also the Entertaining Optimist)
- The Meditator
- The Protector
These terms can vary based on the book or organization you use to find your type. I am a type 7, which is the Entertaining Optimist. I learned a lot about myself after studying the Enneagram. One of the biggest lessons I learned from this test is that I tend to overbook myself and stay busy to avoid pain at all costs. I am also always dreaming and believing in big ideas and struggle with small tasks that are redundant and boring. I am constantly seeking fun, enjoyment, and fulfillment in every relationship and situation!
Finally, I recently took a quiz called “HIGH 5 TEST” – which is focused on helping you understand your core strengths and using those instead of focusing on your weaknesses. This one has about 100 questions, but they go fast! Don’t skip this one because of length – it’s really insightful! My High 5 traits are:
All of these tests have opened up my eyes to new perspectives about who I am and why I do what I do. I am thankful for this self-awareness and insight into my mind.
So, go ahead and get started! Take these tests and let me know what you discover about yourself and how it helps you take better care of yourself and those around you.