Some days you will be inspired, feel great, and believe in yourself. On other days, it might be hard to keep going. You are worthy on both of those days.
Our worth is not determined by the activities we do, the goals we reach, or the places that we have been. You are worthy simply because you are here, you are alive and you are trying your best every single day. And your best is going to look different every single day. I know for me, I’m still in that space of really wanting to be motivated, but having my energy being pulled in 100 different directions it’s hard to get the things done that I need to.
As a single working mother, my energy is quickly depleted. It’s easy for me to end a day and think, “What did I finish today?”. Between the cooking, cleaning, diaper changes, failed attempts to potty train, playing with the same toys over and over, longing for bedtime but also having guilt that I wasn’t more present during the day with her, the constant tug and pull, the joy and the heartbreak of it all, the feelings of being exhausted and watching Lion King for the 4th time in a week, it goes on and on but sometimes it feels like everything and nothing happened all at once. Even after days where I feel like I’ve done nothing, even though I’ve done everything, and the days that I feel on top of the world and that I’m conquering single motherhood, I still feel worthy. Because I’ve done the grueling self-love work to know that no matter what I do or don’t do, I am worthy of continuing to move forward.
For too long of my life, I attached my worth to my goals. I attached my worth to my accomplishments. And when I didn’t reach those goals, I felt like a failure. Now, I often don’t reach the goals that I have for myself, but I’m way more compassionate with myself.
I want you to remind yourself that you are human. You aren’t failing. You aren’t falling short. You showed up today as the version of you that could show up today, and that’s enough. You probably made a ton of mistakes. You probably said or did the wrong thing. You probably forgot something important. You could have even done something to hurt someone. And you are allowed to feel sad or angry about those mistakes or problems. But you are still worthy of trying tomorrow. You are still worthy of giving yourself a big hug and reminding yourself that everyone is messing up, no one knows what they’re doing, and as long as we continue to show up and forgive ourselves, everything is going to work out and fall into place.
I wish I learned this lesson in college when my self-worth was tied to every single accomplishment. I’ve done so much work to change my mindset. I’ve done the necessary healing through therapy and practicing self-love and self-care. I’ve created the space I needed to feel all my feelings, release them, and move forward.
And I can only hope the same for you. Remember that you can move through whatever challenge you are facing. Remember that you are stronger than you think. Remember that no matter what issue comes your way, or what mistake you make, it does not dictate your worth. Remember that your worth is internal. Begin to see that you are worthy of your tomorrow and all good things in this world and watch how life begins to fall into place.
Xo,
Be Beautifully Simply You