Positivity is pure power. I truly mean it when I say that my whole life changed when I started implementing positivity into my life. I was in a dark hole, not really knowing if anything was on the other side.
I didn’t realize how close I could get to the life I always dreamed of, by just being positive with myself.
From a young age, we begin to crave external validation. In kindergarten, I remember getting stickers for doing a good job. A reward given by someone else. The early desire and need for someone else to praise us and the neglect of praising ourselves becomes a vicious cycle.
The rest of my life, I needed external validation to survive. At the core of my existence was the approval of others and the remarks from others about how wonderful I was. The one piece that was missing, was me being able to validate myself. And because I lacked self-validation, I felt incredibly bad about myself no matter what people said about me. I was negative with myself about who I was, where I had been and where I was going.
Until I discovered the power of positive affirmations. Telling myself I was beautiful in the mirror every morning even though I felt anything but, was one of the best things I ever did for myself. I started feeding myself with positivity and for the first time in my life, things finally, finally came together.
My dreams of making a difference and helping people are unfolding right before my eyes. My dreams of meeting the love of my life and getting married are no longer my dreams, but my reality and are literally taking my breath away. Because of positivity, I was able to tell myself I was worthy of every beautiful thing I have right now. I told myself I was capable, and I told myself that no matter what happened, not only was I strong enough to endure it, but that I had the most amazing support system around me.
I truly believe without positivity, I would still be in the emotionally abusive relationship I was in. I would have still been chasing external validation and missing out on the blessings of my experiences today.
I can imagine you have lots of dreams for yourself. And maybe you are doing everything right, but the one thing that holds you back is your mindset. You tell yourself you aren’t good enough or you worry that you don’t have the right tools. But you have the power to change your mindset and to nurture your brain and positivity in this moment. Instead of focusing on the negativity in this situation or what could go wrong, focus on what could go right. Visualize your dreams coming true in magnitudes so large, you aren’t even sure if they are possible. But then remind yourself that those dreams are absolutely possible.
I know there will be bumps along the way, it will never be a fully perfect experience, but if you believe in yourself, if you trust and believe in the process and if you remember you are capable and worth it, there is no dream too big.
For a while, I thought I was stuck in the situation I was in. That there was no other life for me than the mental struggle I was facing surrounded by someone who further brought me down. I thought that was it. I thought that is what I deserved. Until I realized, I deserved more and now I realize that my negative mindset kept me back, and my positive mindset set me free. Positivity set me free to love myself and to find love.
I believe in the power of positivity now more than ever. Visualize your dreams and tell yourself they are possible. And then get up every day and do your best to find the positive, be patient with yourself, and watch everything fall into place.
I promise you, positivity is attainable and so very powerful.
Xo,