One of the biggest parts about self-love is forgiving yourself. Forgiving yourself when you feel like you’ve fallen short. Forgiving yourself when you mess up, when you’ve said the wrong thing, when you hurt someone unintentionally. Forgiving yourself when you said too much, or not enough. Forgiving yourself when you ate too much or worked out too much, or not …
Believe in Yourself, Too
Reaching your goals begins with believing in yourself. I thought about this and immediately thought about the movie Acrimony by Tyler Perry. The movie has a lot—and I mean a lot—of twists and turns. The husband has this idea to sell this battery-powered tool, and he believes in his idea when absolutely no one else does. I didn’t like his …
Choose to Be Beautifully Simply You
Some people won’t be your people and some people won’t like us. That’s okay. This is one of the hardest things to be okay with as perfectionists, the idea that other people won’t like us. We aim to be so perfect in everything that we do, that it absolutely pains us when someone sees us as anything different. But no …
Be Patient With Yourself When You Are Struggling
I’m going through a lot. Please be patient with me. Going through this experience with my mom’s cancer has changed me. In some ways, it has taken things from me. One of those things is often my positivity. In some ways, her diagnosis has made me stronger and made me appreciate life more. But in more ways, it has unfortunately …
Forgive Yourself When You Mess Up
It’s so easy to go through our lives and forget what we have in front of us. It’s so easy to sweat the small stuff and forget the great stuff. We will often experience loss and spend some time reflecting on how life is too short and how we should hug our loved ones more and tell them we love …
Make Your Mental Health Come First on Your To-Do List
We all have 24 hours in a day. How are you choosing to use that time? Wow—so much pressure on what should be a motivating statement. When I think about 24 hours, it gives me anxiety, because there are somehow never enough hours in the day to get everything done. The days I work from home, I get so consumed …
You Are Doing the Best You Can, and That’s Enough
I was at a restaurant called HopDoddy in California and overheard a heated conversation between a daughter and her parents. She was trying to plead with them to have just one semester that she could get all A’s and just one B. And her parents spent a while almost degrading her for getting a B, that they thought she was …
The Beauty in Uncomfort
To get something you’ve never had, you’ve got to do something you’ve never done. My coach used to say that to us all the time. Back then, for me, that quote embodied a chase for perfection and a need for validation, but now this quote really rings true to me as I embark on my longest trip ever by myself. …
Appreciating Delayed Gratification
So many of us often seek out instant gratification. We want results and we want them immediately. It happens when we go to the gym to get more fit and get frustrated when we don’t see progress in a few days. It happens when we start therapy and expect to figure out our entire struggles after just one hour session, …
Strength Kept You Fighting Through 2019
This is my last blog post of 2019 and my 52nd blog post this year. Each post shared a different moment—whether happy or sad—of my life to help spark discussions for you with other people or within yourself. Within those blog posts was a life that I lived everyday, full of both blessings and pain. But I’m sure it was …