When I first heard about coronavirus, I felt the way many of us felt, that it was sad what was happening but felt too far away to feel real to us or to see that it was a big deal. The classic, “this won’t affect me” mindset. Growing up, I always thought mental health problems was someone else’s problem. I …
Sometimes We Have to Slow Down to Speed Up and Reach Our Goals
You’ve got to slow down to speed up. My coach used to say this all of the time. It seemed counterintuitive because our main goal was to run faster. But in order to run faster, we had to slow down, pause, and focus on the movement and focus on our form. If we were speeding through all of the movements, …
This Time May Create a Sense of Loss, But Will Also Build Resiliency
Canceled. Canceled. Postponed indefinitely. I feel like that’s all we are hearing now, and although I understand why and I agree with the measures being taken, I also feel and share the immense pain and sense of loss that so many others are feeling. Coronavirus has canceled all of my speaking gigs and legitimately put my career on hold. It …
Self-Love Means Forgiving Yourself When You Mess Up
One of the biggest parts about self-love is forgiving yourself. Forgiving yourself when you feel like you’ve fallen short. Forgiving yourself when you mess up, when you’ve said the wrong thing, when you hurt someone unintentionally. Forgiving yourself when you said too much, or not enough. Forgiving yourself when you ate too much or worked out too much, or not …
Believe in Yourself, Too
Reaching your goals begins with believing in yourself. I thought about this and immediately thought about the movie Acrimony by Tyler Perry. The movie has a lot—and I mean a lot—of twists and turns. The husband has this idea to sell this battery-powered tool, and he believes in his idea when absolutely no one else does. I didn’t like his …
Choose to Be Beautifully Simply You
Some people won’t be your people and some people won’t like us. That’s okay. This is one of the hardest things to be okay with as perfectionists, the idea that other people won’t like us. We aim to be so perfect in everything that we do, that it absolutely pains us when someone sees us as anything different. But no …
Be Patient With Yourself When You Are Struggling
I’m going through a lot. Please be patient with me. Going through this experience with my mom’s cancer has changed me. In some ways, it has taken things from me. One of those things is often my positivity. In some ways, her diagnosis has made me stronger and made me appreciate life more. But in more ways, it has unfortunately …
Forgive Yourself When You Mess Up
It’s so easy to go through our lives and forget what we have in front of us. It’s so easy to sweat the small stuff and forget the great stuff. We will often experience loss and spend some time reflecting on how life is too short and how we should hug our loved ones more and tell them we love …
Make Your Mental Health Come First on Your To-Do List
We all have 24 hours in a day. How are you choosing to use that time? Wow—so much pressure on what should be a motivating statement. When I think about 24 hours, it gives me anxiety, because there are somehow never enough hours in the day to get everything done. The days I work from home, I get so consumed …
You Are Doing the Best You Can, and That’s Enough
I was at a restaurant called HopDoddy in California and overheard a heated conversation between a daughter and her parents. She was trying to plead with them to have just one semester that she could get all A’s and just one B. And her parents spent a while almost degrading her for getting a B, that they thought she was …










