Maybe this time was meant to happen for me. Maybe things were going too fast and this was a way for me to slow down. A huge part of me felt overwhelmed. How could I ever handle all these speaking engagements, manage a city-wide event, work a part-time job, maintain a relationship with my fiance and myself, and plan a …
Put Trust in the Universe, Everything Will Work Out
Put trust in the universe. Relinquish control. Everything will work out. I keep telling myself that as these days at home become increasingly more difficult. Life is so different right now. It can feel fun and exciting at times to try new things or have more meaningful conversations or to spend more time outside. But it can also feel really …
Self-Love Means Allowing Yourself to Feel How You Feel
One of the biggest parts of self-love and self-care is being patient with ourselves. I remember when my therapist told me that what I was going through with my mom’s health was a form of “extended trauma.” And I think about how this situation we are dealing with right now with COVID-19 is much of the same. There are a …
I Hope This Tough Time Teaches Us that We All Have Mental Health
When I first heard about coronavirus, I felt the way many of us felt, that it was sad what was happening but felt too far away to feel real to us or to see that it was a big deal. The classic, “this won’t affect me” mindset. Growing up, I always thought mental health problems was someone else’s problem. I …
Sometimes We Have to Slow Down to Speed Up and Reach Our Goals
You’ve got to slow down to speed up. My coach used to say this all of the time. It seemed counterintuitive because our main goal was to run faster. But in order to run faster, we had to slow down, pause, and focus on the movement and focus on our form. If we were speeding through all of the movements, …
This Time May Create a Sense of Loss, But Will Also Build Resiliency
Canceled. Canceled. Postponed indefinitely. I feel like that’s all we are hearing now, and although I understand why and I agree with the measures being taken, I also feel and share the immense pain and sense of loss that so many others are feeling. Coronavirus has canceled all of my speaking gigs and legitimately put my career on hold. It …
Self-Love Means Forgiving Yourself When You Mess Up
One of the biggest parts about self-love is forgiving yourself. Forgiving yourself when you feel like you’ve fallen short. Forgiving yourself when you mess up, when you’ve said the wrong thing, when you hurt someone unintentionally. Forgiving yourself when you said too much, or not enough. Forgiving yourself when you ate too much or worked out too much, or not …
Believe in Yourself, Too
Reaching your goals begins with believing in yourself. I thought about this and immediately thought about the movie Acrimony by Tyler Perry. The movie has a lot—and I mean a lot—of twists and turns. The husband has this idea to sell this battery-powered tool, and he believes in his idea when absolutely no one else does. I didn’t like his …
Choose to Be Beautifully Simply You
Some people won’t be your people and some people won’t like us. That’s okay. This is one of the hardest things to be okay with as perfectionists, the idea that other people won’t like us. We aim to be so perfect in everything that we do, that it absolutely pains us when someone sees us as anything different. But no …
Be Patient With Yourself When You Are Struggling
I’m going through a lot. Please be patient with me. Going through this experience with my mom’s cancer has changed me. In some ways, it has taken things from me. One of those things is often my positivity. In some ways, her diagnosis has made me stronger and made me appreciate life more. But in more ways, it has unfortunately …










